Hi Christina, Kudos to you and your family for finding a solution that works best for your family. That is all that’s matters— not what James , John or any other family members think. The society we live in forces stereotypes roles on us and we oftentimes are judged by these criteria. It takes wise thinking and bravery to step away from the norm in the interest of what works for your family. Thanks for sharing. Merry Christmas to your super family